The Fifth Anniversary of Covid-19: A Nation in Mourning
As the world marks the fifth anniversary of the COVID-19 pandemic, the collective grief felt by millions remains a palpable reminder of the profound loss endured. The virus swept through lives with unprecedented speed, claiming over 1.2 million Americans and leaving their loved ones in a state of unimaginable sorrow. The early days of the pandemic were particularly devastating, as families were forced to confront death in isolation, unable to offer the comfort and closure that traditional burial rites provide. Funerals were held virtually, with loved ones saying their final goodbyes via Zoom, a stark contrast to the intimate farewells of pre-pandemic times.
For Sara Rochon, the loss of her eldest brother, Joseph Hanna, in April 2020, brought an grief so overwhelming it felt consuming. Unable to attend his funeral due to restrictions, Sara found solace in the memories of Joseph’s vibrant presence—his bright smile and commanding stride. Her grief, while still present, has evolved into a bittersweet remembrance that motivated her to move back to Ohio, closer to her family. This shift exemplifies how many have found ways to navigate their sorrow, transforming it into a catalyst for change and connection.
The Evolution of Grief: From Sorrow to Resilience
The passage of time has tempered the raw edges of grief for many, but its presence remains a constant companion. For some, like Lisa Murray, the loss of her mother-in-law, Sandy Gatti, in February 2021, continues to feel like an open wound. The preventable nature of Sandy’s death, so close to the advent of vaccines, fuels a lingering sense of injustice. In contrast, others, such as Joy Netanya Thompson, find the nature of their loss intensifies their grief. Joy’s father died alone in a hospital after weeks of isolation, a stark juxtaposition to the peaceful farewell she had with her grandfather, highlighting the profound impact of pandemic-induced isolation on bereavement.
The contrast in how loved ones passed—some in loneliness, others surrounded by family—has deeply influenced the grieving process. Joy reflects on the cleavage of her life into two epochs: Before and After Grief. This duality underscores the lasting emotional toll of the pandemic, where the circumstances of death have left indelible marks on the bereaved.
Anger and Guilt: Lingering Emotions of Loss
Anger and guilt are emotions that persistently accompany grief for many. Amy Morris, who lost her mother, Ilene Craft Boger, in late 2020, feels an intense rage over the circumstances of her mother’s death in an assisted living facility. The helplessness of being unable to be by her mother’s side during her final days exacerbates her anger. Brian Owens, an artistic director who lost multiple family members to COVID, experiences frustration, exacerbated by the stringent lockdowns in Canada that prevented him from being with his family in the U.S.
Arjun Jalan, grappling with the loss of his mother in India, struggles with guilt. His inability to visit her due to travel restrictions and his subsequent avoidance of photos of her reflect the complex emotional landscape many navigate. The pandemic’s global reach has meant that the bereaved face not only grief but also the weight of helplessness and self-reproach.
Finding Solace Through Creative Expression and Community
In the face of such profound loss, many have turned to creative expression and community as avenues of healing. Nicholas Montemarano, a professor of creative writing, found solace in poetry after his mother’s death, penning a memoir in verse that captures his journey through grief. This creative outlet has been a lifeline, transforming pain into a testament of love and remembrance.
Kim Lowe, a filmmaker, found healing through reconnecting with her family’s history after the loss of her mother and several aunts. Collaborating with cousins to document their family stories, including a cherished recipe for Portuguese soup, has provided a sense of continuity and closure. These acts of remembrance highlight the resilience of the human spirit, where even in grief, there is a profound appreciation for life and love.
Transformation and Resilience: Beyond Grief
The fifth anniversary of the pandemic serves as a poignant reminder of the enduring impact of loss. Yet, amidst the sorrow, there are stories of transformation and resilience. Gwendolyn W. Williams, who lost two close friends to COVID, now approaches life with renewed vigor, cherishing every moment to express love and appreciation. Her story, like many others, illustrates how loss can instill a deeper gratitude for life.
As the nation reflects on the past five years, the collective grief remains a testament to the lives lost and the families forever changed. However, it also reveals the resilience of the human spirit. Through their stories, the bereaved show that while the scars of loss will always remain, they also pave the way for personal growth, deeper connections, and a renewed appreciation for the fragility and beauty of life.
